Jerry and I have a date night tonight thanks to the YMCAs Parent's Night Out. I was explaining to the boys that tonight they would be playing with friends, eating pizza and watching movies. Zachary ask if daddy and I were going to work out and I said no, he asked if we were going out and I said yes so he said "daddy needs to get you flowers cause that's how you make it a date."
Our first weeds are poking through the dormant grass and the boys were playing out back and picked me a cup full of "flowers" and insisted on putting them in water.
And the last bit on flowers for now, the trees are starting to bloom! Winter is almost over! I cannot wait for green grass, leafy trees and walking outside and feeling the radiating heat from the sun.
Friday, March 12, 2010
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Lowe's must love us...
Since almost the very 1st day of 2010 we have been making purchases at Lowe's several times a week. Sadly not 1 room is completely done and we're already into the 3rd month of the year. I blame weather since I haven't been able to just kick the boys outside so I culd work. I also blame the guy who had no clue about home improvement projects that we bought the house from, every project takes so much longer trying to fix his attempts at the projects.
I am excited that we will finally have color on the walls in our all white and beige house. The kitchen and dining area walls are done being painted and I just bought the paint for the entry way. I enjoy doing projects around the house because it is a most visable sign of accomplishmet at the end of the day. I mean really me surviving the boys and the boys surviving me each day, while an accomplishment, is not a stroke to the ego.
I am excited that we will finally have color on the walls in our all white and beige house. The kitchen and dining area walls are done being painted and I just bought the paint for the entry way. I enjoy doing projects around the house because it is a most visable sign of accomplishmet at the end of the day. I mean really me surviving the boys and the boys surviving me each day, while an accomplishment, is not a stroke to the ego.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Closed minded people suck...
Even if they think they are open-minded. I've never really had a stance on the working mom/ stay at home mom debate. Each has their place and their good points and bad points. I've been both, I've worked out of the home, in the home and currently am strictly a stay at home mom.
I have come to realize that people I used to count as friends who do work outside the home and always said they accepted SAHMs the same as WMs are liars. If someone is appreciative of having the opportunity to SAH they'll either blast them or totally ignore them, how petty and juvenile. These particular WMs think all mom's should want to work and feel a need to work and feel totally underachieving and ashamed if they choose to stay home because 'what happens if they get divorced or their husband loses their job.' Hmm. Well, I have more faith in my marriage than to have a contingent in place in case my marriage fails, that's like saying you don't believe in God except in case it's true that when you die if you don't believe in God you'll be in purgatory or hell so in that event you'll believe. And what if Jerry does lose his job, well, I'm educated and I have a ton of experience so we could both look for a job at the same time. I see no reason to work just to work. I enjoy my kids. BTW, these same WMs will tell you in a heart beat that they would never stay home with their kids even if they did have the opportunity, how sad, how horrible for their children...why the hell did they even have children?!?
I am appreciative of the opportunity to be able to stay at home with my kids and I worked DAMN HARD to be able to get here. At times I worked 4 jobs at once. I've had to put Zachary in night care so I could work nights, then I stayed up with him all day and had to go back to work that night, I was living on less than 4 hours of sleep a day to provide for him and our family. There are no great daycare options around. There are some 'this daycare will do if it has to' daycares around but why the hell do I want to spend $1000 a month to have someone else watch my kids when I can do it myself? I enjoy my children (even when they do stress me out). I see no reason to end up spending more than I make working in gas, lunches out, work clothes, dinner out because I'm too exhausted to cook, and of course the ever rising price of daycare. I was only getting about 30 minutes of free time after work with the kids after dinner and bath was done then with all the errands that had to be run on the weekends we had very few chances to spend time together and make memories.
So to these working moms who think they are better than any stay at home mom could ever be...pbththththth!
I walked a mile in WMs and SAHMs shoes, I've succeeded at both, I've enjoyed both and I've struggled with both. For now SAHM is what I do and I love it. In a couple years I'll be a WM again and I'm sure I'll love it too.
How sad for people to judge those they don't understand, or project a hatred to cover jealousy in either not having the opportunity to SAH or enjoying staying at home when they did have the chance.
I have come to realize that people I used to count as friends who do work outside the home and always said they accepted SAHMs the same as WMs are liars. If someone is appreciative of having the opportunity to SAH they'll either blast them or totally ignore them, how petty and juvenile. These particular WMs think all mom's should want to work and feel a need to work and feel totally underachieving and ashamed if they choose to stay home because 'what happens if they get divorced or their husband loses their job.' Hmm. Well, I have more faith in my marriage than to have a contingent in place in case my marriage fails, that's like saying you don't believe in God except in case it's true that when you die if you don't believe in God you'll be in purgatory or hell so in that event you'll believe. And what if Jerry does lose his job, well, I'm educated and I have a ton of experience so we could both look for a job at the same time. I see no reason to work just to work. I enjoy my kids. BTW, these same WMs will tell you in a heart beat that they would never stay home with their kids even if they did have the opportunity, how sad, how horrible for their children...why the hell did they even have children?!?
I am appreciative of the opportunity to be able to stay at home with my kids and I worked DAMN HARD to be able to get here. At times I worked 4 jobs at once. I've had to put Zachary in night care so I could work nights, then I stayed up with him all day and had to go back to work that night, I was living on less than 4 hours of sleep a day to provide for him and our family. There are no great daycare options around. There are some 'this daycare will do if it has to' daycares around but why the hell do I want to spend $1000 a month to have someone else watch my kids when I can do it myself? I enjoy my children (even when they do stress me out). I see no reason to end up spending more than I make working in gas, lunches out, work clothes, dinner out because I'm too exhausted to cook, and of course the ever rising price of daycare. I was only getting about 30 minutes of free time after work with the kids after dinner and bath was done then with all the errands that had to be run on the weekends we had very few chances to spend time together and make memories.
So to these working moms who think they are better than any stay at home mom could ever be...pbththththth!
I walked a mile in WMs and SAHMs shoes, I've succeeded at both, I've enjoyed both and I've struggled with both. For now SAHM is what I do and I love it. In a couple years I'll be a WM again and I'm sure I'll love it too.
How sad for people to judge those they don't understand, or project a hatred to cover jealousy in either not having the opportunity to SAH or enjoying staying at home when they did have the chance.
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